Inspirational,  Personal,  Reflections

Start doing things you love.

Today, I want to share a story that Hammy told me some days ago.

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Once there were 2 friends, who lived on the 80th storey of a tall building. After going to the market one morning, they reached their void deck only to realize that the lift is under repair. Being young and energetic, they decided to take the stairs as that is the only way home.

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The first 20 storeys were a breeze, they even joked and laughed on their way up. Even with their bags full of grocery, they were able to make it up without much difficulty. And they reached the 20th level.

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Next, the journey to the 40th level was a tad more strenuous. They were perspiring, and getting a little breathless. When they reached the 40th storey, they stopped for a rest. They realized that they might have to leave some bags of grocery and belongings behind in order to continue their way home. So they made decisions of what to bring home along with them, and what to discard. Then they climbed on.

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Reaching the 60th storey, they are out of breath. The friends decided to drop more baggage, and encourage each other to press on. For they are almost home!

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Finally, after 80 levels of steps, they are home. He reaches into his pocket… and sadness and despair overcome his face, as he realizes that the key was left behind on the 40th level.

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END OF STORY

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This story is about life and dreams. When we are young and ambitious, we have a lot of dreams. Dreams of becoming successful, accomplished, and recognized. Dreams of becoming a writer/singer/designer/stylist… we set out to fulfill these dreams with our vitality and enthusiasm. We race ahead in life with full force.

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Then when we are adults and more responsibilities set in, we make decisions on priorities in our lives. Family versus career, reality versus dreams, regularity versus uncertainty. Life takes a slower pace as children arrive, or even just cutting back on all that pursuing of ‘silly childhood dreams’ to enjoy some quiet time with a partner. Often, we are lulled into simple contentment as life becomes a stable routine.

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As age catches up, after all the hustle and bustle, we often look back on our lives and realized that there is still this dream, left behind half a lifetime ago, not yet fulfilled because it was forgotten. But there is no way of turning back and reliving life again.

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So the moral of the story is, don’t let go of your dreams. If you have that one dream still pending somewhere behind your mind, take the chance to do it ASAP!

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So as I was thinking about my dreams, I realized that I don’t know what I want to do in life! Then I saw what Erica wrote on Twitter,

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“It’s about having a dream, and making it come true.

So what happens if you do not have a dream?” 

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Haha yeah, what happens?? It’s not being too lazy to think, but just simply clueless of what I want to do in life despite cracking my brains over it. Especially when I’m going to graduate in a year, I have to think hard about what I want.

And everyone around me is also facing the same problem, because we’ve been asking each other what we want to do after graduation, and some of us just don’t have an answer yet.

So if you don’t have any idea what you want to do in life yet, do read on.

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Miraculously, I found my answer in the form of a self-help article online, “How to find what you love to do” by Briankim.net. And before reading, I was quite sceptical that it would really help me to discover my life path as it claims, but surprisingly I did come up with something!

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Step One: Write down a list of your skills and interests.

Here’s mine,

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The lists are not extensive, nor are they impressive… cuz I just wrote the more prominent ones that I can think of. I laughed at myself when I wrote ‘Tweet’. Haha, but tweeting can be considered a skill right?? I mean, some people don’t even know how to tweet! Lol..

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Then now for the most important question,

“What would you love to do on a daily basis utilizing both your skills and interests that will add significant value to people?”

This question is the key to determining what you want to do in life, after taking into consideration of your skills and interests. Haha cuz you may love to sleep and your skill is sleeping, but that doesn’t benefit anyone else! Haha so obviously you can’t do that for a living.

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Of course I would LOVE to do all these on a daily basis! But I probably can’t, because I still owe the bank a lot of money for school fees. So I might have to take up a regular 9 to 5 job till I have repaid my debts. I also think it would be good to have a diploma/degree in social work, so I can contribute more.

At least now I know where I want to end up, I can have better plans on how to get there. I’ve been searching online for more information on how to help lonely and abandoned elderly in Singapore…

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I am writing all these down because I’m going to graduate soon, and when I start work, I’m going to be pulled into the crazy rat race and be working my ass off. I’m afraid that I might forget what I dream to do here on earth, and this post will serve as a reminder. So maybe 10 years down the road, when I become sick and tired of life, this post will remind me of my passion and purpose in life, and I can work towards my dream again =)

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There’s no harm in trying this simple exercise, and you might be surprised by what you come up with, so just do it! Haha..

 I hope this activity will help you as much as it helped me. Bye!

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  • kirsten

    I don’t think I have ever particularly made that much of a plan for my life. I mean, I had goals that I worked towards, but I never really saw my life necessarily mapped out, and was just bumbling around from one goal to another. A lot of where I am right now is down to luck, but I think the other thing is that I have been fortunate enough to be always near my interests. In fact, I seem to have just gone in circles round and round the same few little things – I can never stray too far!

    I have figured that it’s very difficult to definitively find something that you love doing – as a job there will always be things that are a chore and that you really don’t like doing. There are days where I drag my feet too about what I’m doing and where I’m going, but I find that as long as I am doing something that makes me feel good about being me, and allows me to look at my life with a smile, then that’s good enough for me.

    • mypeaceofheaven

      I agree with you on not planning that much, I think it’s cuz you’ve already discovered what you like to do, and you’re good at it. :) And the universe sort of comes together to help you achieve goals. For me, I’m stuck in a degree which I don’t even like and it takes more work to figure out what my next steps are. I think it’s important that I have a goal then I can work towards it slowly. At the end of the day, I can then look back at my life and say it hasn’t been wasted. :)

      • kirsten

        The danger for me now is that it might be so easy to get stuck. I am evaluating what I want to do next year and the temptation to just stay put and keep doing what I’m doing is so strong. It just seems so much like a good option – why jeopardise a steady paycheck? But at the same time I know that I can’t stay forever, and that much as I love my job there is still a lot out there to explore and figure out, and that there is no better time than now, while I’m young.

        Especially since I’m actually going overseas to study next September, next year January – August is actually the perfect time for me to just throw things to the wind and go out to explore. Almost like a gap year, I guess. All I need to do is suck it up and stop being apprehensive (of what my family would say, what I would do for money, etc. etc.)

        It’s easy to say, “Yeah, I’ll go out there!” But I’m finding that the actually DOING it is so much harder, because I don’t want to make any mistakes. Then again, it might not be a mistake, it might be the best thing to happen to me, if only I could just figure it all out!

        • mypeaceofheaven

          I know right! If only we knew what to do with our lives. So what is this thing that is likened to ‘throwing things to the wind’, and makes you apprehensive? Do you already have something daring to do in mind for Jan to Aug?

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