You know, outward displays of affection aren’t really a big part of the Asian culture. I wonder if it has something to do with our awkwardness with expressing our feelings, or the fear of having the very part of our heart offered sullied by rejection. I’m not just talking about romantic relationships, but also with family members. The most important words are the hardest to say and the deepest feelings are the hardest to express…
An action begets habit, and habit becomes a way of life. Add busy work schedules and digital distraction to the equation, we may very well go through life without letting our loved ones know how much they mean to us.
What if all that years of unspoken love was unearthed within a mere 4 minutes, raw and bare? The result would be nothing but intense. Would you dare?
For a bold social experiment, Prudential Singapore invited several pairs of people who know and care about each other to look into each other’s eyes for 4 straight minutes, and the outcome was unbelievable. Initial discomfort, awkwardness and vulnerability gave way to a surge of emotional love; and suddenly the heartfelt words came. The memories shared, the years spent together or apart, the laughter and the regrets…
If there’s someone important you would like to try this experiment with, here are some guidelines:
- Grab them and request for 4 minutes of their time
- Find somewhere quiet where you’re likely to be undisturbed
- Set timer for 4 minutes
- They (or even you!) are likely to give up due to the initial feelings of insecurity and vulnerability
- But persevere and you may see a beautiful relationship reconnected.