Reflections #3

Today I realized yet another mistake I make frequently, one of my flaws that gets me all upset and stuff.

That is, I have a tendency to impose my expectations on others.

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For eg, I think you’re a very nice and understanding, friendly and gentle person, and I kind of expect you to be really that. Then if I see that you’re not what I had expected, I get disappointed, because I really thought you were nice.

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How silly of me to make myself go through such unnecessary torture!

I should learn that people have their own opinions and they have a right to express their own views in their own tone. I can’t expect people to be nicer or less mean in their tones. I can’t expect somebody else to understand my views either, there’s a reason why they’re up there and I’m down here. That’s just something I have to accept.

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I paint too good a picture of some people that when they fall from the sky (like a fallen angel), I feel disappointed that my image of that person was wrong. Then some adjustments have to be done, such as lowering my expectations of that person, (which is a sad thing to me), or simply just reminding myself that I should kick this bad habit.

Well either way, I will get it sorted out and hopefully there will be no more issues like this!

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